Heartbroken Woman Copes with Grief of Lost Child by Helping Others, 1 in 4 Pregnancies End in Miscarriage
HERNANDO – According to the U.S. National Library of Medicine, between 15-20 percent of all pregnancies end in miscarriage during the second trimester (27 weeks). A large number of women are so traumatized by the unexpected termination that they suffer from psychological problems, like depression and anxiety. That’s what one woman says happened after losing her first pregnancy to miscarriage back in August. And when she couldn’t find support groups to help her through the grieving process, she decided to start one of her own.
Jesse Jones moved to Spring Hill about 6 years ago from Tampa and says she became pregnant in July with the child’s father, her long-time boyfriend.
“I was so excited – everyone was excited,” says Jesse but each time she visited her O.B., the fetus’ development became more of a concern. Jesse says her daughter, “Carter,” was not keeping up with the projected growth and her heartbeat was much slower than average.
On August 24th, doctors gave Jesse the bad news; that Carter had detached from the uterus and they could not find a heartbeat. Jesse was crushed and says at that moment, “All my hopes and dreams were just taken away in an instant.”
Doctors were forced to perform a D and C (Dilation and Curettage) and afterwards, a heartbroken Jesse asked if she could take her baby home with her. The unusual request was granted and thanks to Brewer and Son’s Funeral Home, they performed a cremation free of charge.
Jesse has two tattoos to remember Carter; one of a leaf that reminds her that she has to “turn over a new leaf,” and another of a heart, footprints, and Carter’s name on her ankle.In the weeks following her miscarriage, Jesse says she tried to find a local support group but they were only in major cities like Orlando and Miami.
Knowing that other local women were suffering from the loss, Jesse decided to start her own group called Miscarriage Infant Loss Support Group. And with the help of a Spring Hill Seventh-Day Adventist Church, Jesse will hold her first group session next Tuesday at 6:30 p.m. The church is providing Jesse the space free of charge and is even offering snacks and drinks during her meetings.
Ironically, Jesse says the experience tested her faith in God but that now she is getting more involved in the church.
Jesse says attendees will remain completely anonymous because she knows that some women never announced their pregnancies, and are forced to hide their grief from family and friends.
Jesse refers to Carter an “Angel Baby,” those are babies that die before birth, are still born, or die within the first weeks of birth. She further explained that Sunshine Babies are first pregnancies that go full term and survive, and Rainbow Babies are second pregnancies that go full term.
Women interested in attending the group can contact Jesse on the group’s Facebook page or call (352) 556-7380
Spring Hill Seventh-Day Adventist Church is located at 2300 Osowaw Blvd.
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